Lead with Your Aspirations

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In these inhumane, dangerous, and soul-sick troubling times it is not unusual to feel adrift in a wasteland of horrifying events. Ignorance runs amok and too many people have traded in their humanity for mean, cruel and despicable actions against folks who are different from them in some minor, yet not significant, visible way.

In the midst of this criminal madness we need to focus more than ever on our aspirations for a present and future that lead to the elevation of our humanness, society. connections to Planet Earth and impact in the world.

Where do we begin?

With a candid look at and reconnection with our deepest longings, which in the midst of this madness we have left unattended. Rather than abandon these deep-seated longings, let's name them and allow them to create compelling contexts for us being our highest and best selves.  

So take a moment. Jot down 25 aspirations you deeply desire to experience in business, leadership and life. Notice how your deepest longings reveal to you new possibilities and expansive areas of abundance.

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Then pay attention to how your aspirations compel you to take inspired action. Doing so, you will find yourself turning a corner that brings what you want to experience —your deepest longings—into current reality. 

ATTENTION: Do not leave your longings unattended. ~Unknown

Welcome Uncertainty

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We create more space for thinking with uncertainty. ~Judith Glaser

Did you know that uncertainty arouses our brains? It stimulates our brains to search for existing patterns and not finding them leads to the creation of new neurological pathways. Without big and small uncertainties — unusual, ambiguous, interesting differences in stimuli — ours brain would not open up and expand our capacity to think in new useful and innovative ways. 

When we shift our frame of reference from ‘fear’ of uncertainty to ‘welcoming’ uncertainty, we create space for the growth of more brain power. This enables us to navigate uncertainty with less trepidation, see new possibilities, and explore fresh opportunities that would otherwise escape our notice.

Life is change. Growth is optional. ~Karen Kaiser Clark

The Conversation is the Relationship

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Intention & Impact

If we can’t feel safe enough to have difficult conversations in an open and honest way, we will never get to a place where we can transform our culture. -Judith Glaser | Conversational Intelligence

What conversation have you been avoiding?

You've probably spend a fair amount of time focused on the problems of this difficult conversation. Since that drains your energy and rarely works well, experiment with shifting your focus. Consider what's possible by asking yourself:

  • In what ways could that difficult conversation support the relationship?
  • What would be different if you listened to connect, rather than primarily to understand?
  • What conscious intention and impact could you bring to that conversation to facilitate mutually desirable outcomes? 

Full Moon Blessing

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Eclipse in Aquarius

"Fear is the cheapest room in the house. I would like to see you living in better conditions." ~Hafiz

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Photo by Caique Silva on Unsplash

 Quote by:  Joe Martino

Quote by: Joe Martino

 Photo by  Caique Silva  on  Unsplash

Photo by Caique Silva on Unsplash

Surrender to Courage

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Embody Goodness

As a leader, it's easy to forget the power in letting go of the familiar. Because letting go takes Courage. Yet in the end we only regreat the chances that we didn't take. So in what way could you surrender to a positive change in your leadership, business or life by simply letting go?

Find Your Way Forward

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There's Always a Way

It may not be the way you want.

It may not be what you think you need.

Yet, when you're willing to let go of expectations and allow what wants to emerge to come forth, there's always a way.

The Power of Your Attention

Years of research by physicists tell us that what we focus on expands. Finding your way begins with you shifting your focus from the problem to what could be possible if you became very curious about solutions. For as Einstein said...

No problem can be solved from the same consciousness that created it. You must learn to see the world anew.

This change in your inner state of being frees you to trust your inner guidance and lead with resilience in the direction your path is taking you.

We meet our destiny on the path we take to avoid it.

When Being Leads to Doing

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You know how...

You know how you carefully think through what you want to say and do, and the positive impact you’d like to have with someone with whom you’ve experienced some tension?

How you’re anxious or agitated and not intending to display or express any of that?

Then you begin to speak or write to this human with your well-planned words, or you show them whatever it is you think they need to see or read…

And the s**t hits the fan.

They are not pleased or grateful or enlightened in the slightest.

You scratch your head and wonder why your sincere intentions and truth-telling has had the opposite impact you intended. “What did I DO wrong? ..."What happened?” 

If you’re still relying on the combination of your brain – chock full of biases, cultural conditioning and lies, and traumatizing memories – and your action-taking to create positive impact, you need to take a quick listen to the wisdom of Sylvia Warren in this 3-minute gem of a recording. 

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The Essence of Leadership

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A leader is a person you will follow to a place you wouldn't go by yourself.

Being Human

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Compassion

Compassion moves us beyond empathy to stand in another person's shoes. And, the elegantly provocative poems of Nayyirah Waheed invite us into the depths of Being Human, where our vast capacity for compassion awaits our arrival.

you broken the ocean in half to be here.

only to meet nothing that wants you.

- immigrant 

Are Your Expectations Blowing You Off Course?

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Navigating other people's expectations can be challenging. Patience and persistence in clarifying exactly what another person's expectations are and reaching mutual agreement about them takes focus, effort, and often serious communication skills. Yet like most leadership and business best practices, ultimately your success depends on how well you understand the true nature of your own expectations.

Knowing the needs your expectations are attempting to meet can keep you from being blown off course by your own hidden agendas. So as I share in the audio below, give yourself some space and time to...

Gratitude Vitamins

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